So You Left: Now What??? | Surviving Abuse

Depressed-young-woman-007First and foremost, we applaud any individual who decides to end their relationship with an abuser.  We know and understand it wasn’t easy, but you made it out….the question now is: What do you do NOW…

Keeping yourself safe from your abuser is just as important after you’ve left as before. To protect yourself, you may need to relocate so your former partner can’t find you. If you have children, they may need to switch schools.

To keep your new location a secret:

  • Get an unlisted phone number.
  • Use a post office box rather than your home address.
  • Apply to your state’s address confidentiality program, a service that confidentially forwards your mail to your home.
  • Cancel your old bank accounts and credit cards, especially if you shared them with your abuser. When you open new accounts, be sure to use a different bank.
  • Obtain a restraining order and get to know what it means and how the police will handle your former abuser if they violate it














To Remain at your old location:

  • Change up your routine
  • Take a new route to work
  • Avoid places where your abuser might think to locate you
  • Change any appointments they know about
  • Find new places to shop and run errands
  • You should also keep a cell phone on you at all times and be ready to call 911 if you spot your former abuser
  • Keep a whistle hanging around your neck so when you see your former abuser and feel you are in danger, blow it and continue to blow it until others around you notice
  • Never park you car away from a building you need to enter
  • If you feel unsafe leaving the store or any place, ask for someone to escort you to your car
  • Get an alarm system installed in your home and don’t use codes your former abuser might know
  • Obtain a restraining order and get to know what it means and how the police will handle your former abuser if they violate it

2012114455womanThese tips are for your safety and we want to ensure you know what you must do to keep you and your family safe during this transition.  You are never alone.  Below are resources to help you through this transition in life:

In the US: call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE).

UK: call Women’s Aid at 0808 2000 247.

Australia: call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732.

Worldwide: visit International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies for a global list of helplines, shelters, and crisis centers.

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